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Edmonton, Alberta | Man Seeking A Woman
Basic Information
I Would Describe Myself As
This morning, I would like to share some thoughts about how to have a peaceful and happy partnership. With luck, it will take my mind off the fight I?m having with my spouse.
Over the years, I?ve learned one or two things about how to make a relationship go smoothly. After three decades of dating and/or marriage one or two things aren?t bad. What I?ve learned, and you might want to write this down, is this: Relationships are tricky.
The problem in my house this morning was that issue that raises its ugly head in every long-term relationship. One of us left a towel on the bathroom floor.
It is absolutely true that, whatever unhappy thing your partner has said recently about your sister or however much you?ve stewed about the time he/she spends playing golf, your frustration is going to come out over something that: a) is trivial, and b) has nothing to do with what you?re really upset about.
In short, in relationships, the shit hits the fan when the towel hits the floor.
Let?s look at how two people faced with this relationship annoyance might handle the situation. First, the person who is confident in themselves and their place in the partnership. This person sees the towel on the floor, knows it has nothing to do with other relationship issues and says something like, ?Honey, you?ve left a towel on the bathroom floor.?
Notice there are key words this relationship pro does not use. Words like ?again, ? ?never, ? ?always? and ?you stupid twit.? The words ?never? and ?always? have likely caused more relationship trouble than even, ?Everyone gains weight at your age, ? or, ?You said it was healthy to acknowledge our attraction to other people.?
Next, we have the person we?ll refer to as ?the rest of us.? This person uses the most common strategy for dealing with relationship discord. This may be called ?taking it all personally.?
TRoU: I cannot believe you did this to me again. You never, never think of me and always, always leave your towel on the floor. I am so leaving you for someone who showers at the gym.
When it comes to relationships, it?s best to remember two things. First, instead of getting a marriage licence, we should all be issued a learner?s permit.
And the best things in life are free. But they?re never easy.
? Anne Hines is an author and humour writer. She has written three novels and one collection of nonfiction humour.
Over the years, I?ve learned one or two things about how to make a relationship go smoothly. After three decades of dating and/or marriage one or two things aren?t bad. What I?ve learned, and you might want to write this down, is this: Relationships are tricky.
The problem in my house this morning was that issue that raises its ugly head in every long-term relationship. One of us left a towel on the bathroom floor.
It is absolutely true that, whatever unhappy thing your partner has said recently about your sister or however much you?ve stewed about the time he/she spends playing golf, your frustration is going to come out over something that: a) is trivial, and b) has nothing to do with what you?re really upset about.
In short, in relationships, the shit hits the fan when the towel hits the floor.
Let?s look at how two people faced with this relationship annoyance might handle the situation. First, the person who is confident in themselves and their place in the partnership. This person sees the towel on the floor, knows it has nothing to do with other relationship issues and says something like, ?Honey, you?ve left a towel on the bathroom floor.?
Notice there are key words this relationship pro does not use. Words like ?again, ? ?never, ? ?always? and ?you stupid twit.? The words ?never? and ?always? have likely caused more relationship trouble than even, ?Everyone gains weight at your age, ? or, ?You said it was healthy to acknowledge our attraction to other people.?
Next, we have the person we?ll refer to as ?the rest of us.? This person uses the most common strategy for dealing with relationship discord. This may be called ?taking it all personally.?
TRoU: I cannot believe you did this to me again. You never, never think of me and always, always leave your towel on the floor. I am so leaving you for someone who showers at the gym.
When it comes to relationships, it?s best to remember two things. First, instead of getting a marriage licence, we should all be issued a learner?s permit.
And the best things in life are free. But they?re never easy.
? Anne Hines is an author and humour writer. She has written three novels and one collection of nonfiction humour.
Sign
Aquarius
Appearance & Situation
My Body Type Is
Slim
My Height Is
5' 8 (1.73 m)
My Eyes Are
Brown
My Ethnicity Is
Asian
My Marital Situation Is
Never Married
I Have Kids
No
I Want Kids
Yes
My Best Feature Is
Calves
My Hair Is
Black
I Have One Or More Of These
No pets
Willing To Relocate
Yes
Status
My Education Level Is
Some College
My Current Employment Status Is
Full-time
My Speciality Is
Sales / Marketing
My Job Title Is
all around worker
I Make This Much In A Year
$15,000USD To $29,999USD
I Live
Alone, With Roomate(s), With Parent(s)
At Home
All Is Calm
I'm A Smoker
No
I Drink
Yes - Socially
Personality
Back In High School, I Was A
Jock
My Social Behavior Is
Reserved, Shy, Fire Starter, Strange
My Interest And Hobbies Are
Exercising, Sports, Clubbing / Bar Hopping, Dancing, Photography, Travel, Cooking, Cars, Computers
My Idea Of A Great Time Is
Hanging Out With Friends, Partying, Going Shopping, Staying At Home, Trying New Things, The Movies, Relaxing, Sleeping, Clubbing / Bars, Drinking, Extreme Sports, Reading A Book, Going To A Casino, Playing Dress-up, Playing Video Games, Tv, Going To A Concert, Going To A Museum
My Friends Describe Me As Being
Troublemaker
Views
My Religion Is
Spiritual But Not Religious
I Attend Services
Every Day
My Political Views Are
Socialist
My Goal In Life Is
own a bike and ride this earth
My Kind Of Humor Is
Dry / Sarcastic, Friendly
Taste
On Tv, I Always Watch
News, Documentaries, Situation Comedies, Movies, Sports, Reality Shows, Re-runs
When I Go To The Movies, I Always Go To See A
I'm A Movie Actor
When Listening To Music, I Always Listen To
Country, Latin, Reggae
My Idea Of Fun Is
SEX